I enjoy working with couples who are looking to improve their relationships and deepen their bonds. I work with many different types of couples – from couples who are just dating and thinking of marriage, to couples who have been married for years and are on the brink of divorce. It is a privilege to be invited into the intimate lives of a couple and to help them come together to better understand each other, and meet each other’s needs.
I aim to help couples learn better communication styles, methods of meeting each other’s needs, and practices to develop trust and real intimacy. Couples who come to therapy are able to work towards reviving their once healthy and intimate relationships even after they thought their relationships were hopeless and over for good. I help couples develop a more secure bond together.
Both members of the couple need to be willing to participate meaningfully in therapy in order for it to be effective. Each person should be willing to be open-minded, honest, and able to look at their part in the dysfunction of the relationship. I do not keep secrets for either member of the couple, and I work hard to foster a safe environment where the reality of the relationship can be discussed without aggression or verbal abuse. Many couples have a very difficult time discussing their feelings about their relationship without becoming angry, defensive, and hurting each other. This is why a therapeutic environment can be so helpful, where I can help to moderate these conversations so that they are productive and healing, rather than destructive to the relationship.